Sunday, July 19, 2015

What We Miss When We Don't Live in the Moment


For most of our lives, some of us have lived physically standing in the moment but about 100 steps ahead in our thoughts. I'm guilty of this. Recently, my mother and a friend of mine both seemed to echo the same sentiments: "Live in the moment" or "Stop trying to figure things out...just be present." With concern of having regret later in life, I decided to make a conscious effort to live in the moment. It started with me understanding why I struggled to simply be present, and that's when I realized, it was a lack of trust. Some of life's challenges had made me so unnerved that my 'survival mode' was to mentally try to have a plan, a back-up for every situation. This was a bad habit I had to break because if I didn't, time would pass by and I'd miss today's opportunities, the big and little blessings that were all around me, and the peace that awaited me in the moment I was in. These are the things we miss when we fail to live in the moment.

Each new day has something new. We miss it if we focus on and worry over things we cannot control. I personally believe being comfortable with living in the moment, starts with the choice to understand who created us and why we were created. I've seen the hands of God in my life, so I'd be a liar if I tried to deny His reality. My peace to live in the moment comes from knowing that God's hands are holding me-they always have been and they always will be. I can't trust "chance," the unknown is scary, faith is challenging, and sometimes people can be fickle and unreliable but God's hands are unfailing. For those of us who understand this, we learn that the presence of God is something we miss if we don't live in the moment. We take for granted the mercy, grace, and joy that God gifts to us each new morning. 

So my effort is to loosen my grip of fear, worry and concern, and just rest in the fact that I should:

Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to an all-knowing God.

Here's to letting go and simply living in the moment! Even if it is one step at a time. 


Tuesday, July 14, 2015

"LaToria's Secret 1: Church Boys in Sheep's Clothing"

I saw this shirt that read "I love Church boys." The first thing I did was (roll my eyes and) think to myself, I've got to say something even though I know a few people who won't like it: Just like every guy you meet on the street is not a bad guy, every man in church is definitely not a Man of God or good guy. Period. Numerous times women have told me they're going to church to meet a man. My question always is, "What if the man God has for you is not at your church? Then what?"

I've learned that just because he attends Sunday service, sings in the choir or is the head usher, doesn't mean that 1) he's committed to God nor 2) he'll be committed to you. "Church boys" or "Church girls" are HUMAN too. It is a personal relationship with God that solidifies the "Christ-integrity" of a person not church attendance. I define Christ-integrity as allowing God to lead your life, and thus, the leadership of God influences how you treat others.

A VERY long time ago, I too thought that if he was in the church, he must have a relationship with God (moment of silence for this lie). The bible says you'll know the tree by the fruit it bears [Matthew 7:20]. So whether the man is in church or you meet him at the gym, you look for the "fruit." The walk of his talk or "soul characteristics" like honesty, respect, integrity, compassion, wisdom...I think you get my point.

Side Note: No one's perfect...we all fall short, yes even us Christians, and that's the beauty of being Christian! You accept that you're an imperfect person, saved by a perfect Savior. So while we strive to do our best, it's the inevitable that we all will make mistakes.

So am I saying that all Church boys are "wolves in sheep's clothing?" Not at all! What I am saying is that just because a man or woman is in the church, doesn't mean that they have a relationship with Christ. WHO they are will show through time and how they treat others will tell you who they are. I'll share some of the best advice I've been given: If you're sincerely relying on God to send your man or purpose mate, then let God do what He does. Live your life, and in due time, whether it be at church, the airport, a coffee shop...God will send him or present you to him, and it will be the right time.

Have a thought or opinion you want to share? Chat with me in the comment section!


Friday, July 10, 2015

4 Reasons Why You Should Be the Girl on the Right

Aaah life! It's an unpredictable, exciting, enduring journey! You never stop learning or experiencing, and there comes a point where you realize you've got everything you need to accomplish your heart's desires, and the outcome of a situation is all about your response. Still, no matter how old you get, there's that desire (and sometimes struggle) to live out loud and be your best self. My suggested solution and personal advice? Take a look at the picture above and BE THE GIRL ON THE RIGHT! Maybe not always but sometimes, and here's 4 reasons why: 

1) Life is about taking chances! Setting your thoughts and fears aside and taking a leap of faith! I heard this quote: "If we wait until we're ready, we'll be waiting for the rest of our lives." So if there's something pulling on your heart strings, firing up your spirit, and heightening your fears,  it might be time to take that leap. When it comes to your heart's sincere desires, you have to feel fear and do it anyway!

2) You only live once! Don't be afraid to be uniquely you. Girl, show your personality! It's a MUST that we allow ourselves to be expressive, creative and pursue a good idea. It may be a business you start, an opinion you express, an event you put on, a vacation you take, or simply an outfit you decide to wear. If it's an expression of your best self, then who cares what others think?! As long as you and God are in agreement with your decisions, you're gonna be alright ;) If there's one thing life has taught me, it's to keep the pen that writes my life story in God's hands. He knows me better than anybody.

3) Sometimes you have to blaze your own trail! There are times when we just aren't meant to do things the way everyone else is doing them. What works for one person, may not work for you. Where as everyone else you know may get hired for a job because of someone they know, it may be meant for you to start your own business. Ralph Waldo Emerson could have very well been speaking to you when he said, "Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail!" 

4) She's a lot of fun! My friend and motivational speaker Alicia Amie has a saying that "sometimes you have to be 30 going on 13." You know those moments when you just don't care what anyone fact it's not even a thought? You live and laugh out loud, dance like no one's watching! Those moments you let the 'kid in you' come out to play? Those are some of your most powerful moments. Always hold on to that part of you!

Here's to being the girl on the least sometimes.



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