Tuesday, July 14, 2015

"LaToria's Secret 1: Church Boys in Sheep's Clothing"


I saw this shirt that read "I love Church boys." The first thing I did was (roll my eyes and) think to myself, I've got to say something even though I know a few people who won't like it: Just like every guy you meet on the street is not a bad guy, every man in church is definitely not a Man of God or good guy. Period. Numerous times women have told me they're going to church to meet a man. My question always is, "What if the man God has for you is not at your church? Then what?"

I've learned that just because he attends Sunday service, sings in the choir or is the head usher, doesn't mean that 1) he's committed to God nor 2) he'll be committed to you. "Church boys" or "Church girls" are HUMAN too. It is a personal relationship with God that solidifies the "Christ-integrity" of a person not church attendance. I define Christ-integrity as allowing God to lead your life, and thus, the leadership of God influences how you treat others.

A VERY long time ago, I too thought that if he was in the church, he must have a relationship with God (moment of silence for this lie). The bible says you'll know the tree by the fruit it bears [Matthew 7:20]. So whether the man is in church or you meet him at the gym, you look for the "fruit." The walk of his talk or "soul characteristics" like honesty, respect, integrity, compassion, wisdom...I think you get my point.

Side Note: No one's perfect...we all fall short, yes even us Christians, and that's the beauty of being Christian! You accept that you're an imperfect person, saved by a perfect Savior. So while we strive to do our best, it's the inevitable that we all will make mistakes.

So am I saying that all Church boys are "wolves in sheep's clothing?" Not at all! What I am saying is that just because a man or woman is in the church, doesn't mean that they have a relationship with Christ. WHO they are will show through time and how they treat others will tell you who they are. I'll share some of the best advice I've been given: If you're sincerely relying on God to send your man or purpose mate, then let God do what He does. Live your life, and in due time, whether it be at church, the airport, a coffee shop...God will send him or present you to him, and it will be the right time.

Have a thought or opinion you want to share? Chat with me in the comment section!

LT

6 comments :

  1. Love this post sis, well written and so very true!!! Thanks for sharing!!!

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    1. Thanks sis! Always appreciate your support. You know you're a big part of this whole new level of openness and expression. xoxo

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  2. Amen! Preach Girl. Love the post.

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    1. Sheri! Thanks girl! It's a topic that (from my own past experiences) I felt needed to be discussed. A lot of times we just go through the experiences and don't share what we've learned. I'm definitely trying to use my experiences to be a blessing. Thanks for reading my dear! I appreciate you!

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  3. Thank you for sharing this. What you said is true. With time, we see the person's characteristics and the fruit they are bearing in their lives. I pray that people can see the fruit I am bearing from my own relationship to Christ.

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    1. Thank you for reading and your feedback and personal reflection. I love that last statement. Indeed that's what life is about!

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