Thursday, August 6, 2015

Why You Shouldn't Care if 'He's Just Not that into You'



If I read one more article explaining to women why "He's just not that into you," I seriously think I'm going to go crazy! Since the movie (which was actually pretty good), it seems like that phrase has become some sort of "indirect diss" to let women know, (in a voice of pity) "sorry you just weren't the one he wanted."

When I read these articles explaining to girls why oh-so unfortunately a man is just not that into her, it takes me back to school yard games. Those ones where two captains pick who's going to get to be on their team, and everyone waits anxiously hoping to be chosen and to not be picked last. Love is not a game and being a man's woman, is not about you being the best-of-the-best amongst his "selection."

 Each of us women have a value, a uniqueness, and strength that is incomparable. If a man can't see that, if he's just not that into you, then maybe that's a sign that he's not the one for you. My entire life (props to my mother), I've believed with everything in me that the man you're with doesn't need convincing of who you are, he doesn't need you to parade how fabulous you are, nor for you to convince him that you are the woman he should be with. You will be an investment and his interest, affection, and love will come genuinely from him, without "push" from you. Who doesn't want that?

What you don't want is the man who is lukewarm. If you have to do any form of convincing as to why you are the right choice, it's a telltale sign. You see how great he is, and assuming you are a person of integrity and demonstrate self-respect, he has a brain to think, ears to hear, and eyes to see, he should be able to comprehend the same thing about you, and on his own.

Consider this, how often do you hear the phrase: "she's just not that into you?" If a guy likes a girl and is giving her the time of day but he starts to notice she doesn't call, check on him, spend time with him, pay attention to him, he moves on! Why? because he knows that he deserves better..or he'll chalk it up as her loss, and consider the fact that there are other options. His life doesn't stop over one woman's lack of interest. In this way, I think it's time that we ladies take a page from the guys' book.

There are many wonderful men out there and all you need is one. So if you're currently in a place where you're realizing the guy you're into isn't into you, go on with your life! Don't you dare let your feelings or self-confidence be affected. Build yourself, accomplish goals, have a freakin' good time, Eat, Pray, Love, etc. etc. and LIVE YOUR LIFE! Then, watch how in the midst of living, the right guy will come along and he won't only be into you, you'll be his choice....oh and PS. He'll love you ;)

It's a truth I can't help but to believe. What are your thoughts?

LT

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