Tuesday, November 24, 2015

"Flowers and Forgiveness for the One Who Broke My Heart"

At the point of forgiveness is freedom. I know because I've been there. Three years ago, a perfect stranger called me and in the midst of heartbreak, with great wisdom, he spoke to my (then) current situation. He later told me, "...one day you'll send that man flowers and a note saying thank you for getting out of my life." Apostle Ron was so right! Back then, I was so hurt and angry by the complete and utter hell I had been put through. It just didn't seem fair that someone could effortlessly break someone so easily. I was a different person then. Innocence bred an ignorance that made me believe that my dedication and the pureness of my love could heal a broken person, and that person in return would fulfill their word, and do right by me. It was a hard lesson learned but I understand now more than ever, that only two individuals can change the foundation of a person- that person (themselves) and their Creator.

Today, one thing I know for sure is that freedom for me came when I could forgive. Boy was it hard! I wanted him to pay! I wanted the time he stole back... but that's not the direction I was supposed to take. I could hear a whisper in my spirit say, "Whatever direction he goes, you take the opposite route. Move on, forgive him and let go of the pain." I came to understand that forgiveness was for me more than it could ever be for him. That in order to live the life I was meant to live, I had to let go and forgive.

This didn't mean that I had to have a conversation with this individual. It didn't mean that I ever had to speak to him again, it simply meant that with all my heart, I had to release the pain, hurt, and disrespect. I had to let the past die and understand that although he took a lot from me, this man owed me nothing. That God is the one who gets vengeance not me. That God would restore me. It was a process. A very painful yet progressive and then peaceful process. It took daily effort and a small number of family and friends but God picked me up, and from the ashes came the most beautiful version of me. Stronger, lighter, wiser.

So to Mr. "You know who you are" I've forgiven you years ago. However, this is my "thank you and flowers." Thank you for showing me time after time you were not meant to be in my life, and for going your way. The best thing I could have done was to walk away from you but the greatest thing was to forgive you.

A year ago, my mother asked that I shake the pain and get my smile back so that I don't "miss the prince God has for me." Well mom, my smile is not only back but it's big and it's genuine. Whomever the beautiful man is God has for me, he won't miss this smile! I'm in God's perfect peace, and when God says it's time, I'm in the perfect place to love him from my soul and with all of my whole, healed and blessed heart!

To the person out there enduring the pain of a broken heart or who's a prisoner in a relationship, know that there's no heartbreak that God can't fix. You just have to take the first step in the direction of getting out of that unhealthy place. Then watch and see where you end up when you let go, move onward, and truly experience genuine forgiveness. Better to go through the process of healing from a broken heart then to spend years with a person who's not meant to be. Complete forgiveness won't happen overnight but with every effort you make, you'll feel the pain fade and happiness reside.

I've been in the broken place, and now I'm in complete peace, and one thing I can say is it's SO much better here! Oh, and all those things fear is telling you- they're lies! You WILL love again, you're not too old, you're not too damaged, (if you have kids) your little ones will be okay, and there is nothing  a toxic "significant other" has that you can't get on your own or elsewhere. God will provide and true happiness will overwhelm you but it all starts with you. It all starts with your choice.

I'd love for you to share this blog because I believe you know at least one person who needs to hear it. Thank you.



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